▀ Communicating to manage anger - their anger
An angry employee bursts into your office, screaming about some real of perceived slight or injustice and fixiní for a flight.
Whatís an effective way to restore calm?
Consider taking a page from the professional diplomatís book
Diplomats - people who restore calm for a living - say the most effective approach lies in how you voice your response, not much in what you say.
Here are two voice tips from the masters:
Thatís why lowering your voice a little has such a jarring effect on would-be combatants. It takes some of the high-temperature air out of their balloon.
The lower-voice technique isnít used much because people fear itíll be perceived as a sign of weakness of timidity. Not true. If anything, it underscores to the angry person how out-of-control he or she sounds.
Slowing your pace almost forces the other person to slow down and calm down (without your saying, "Calm down").
And if all else fails, repeat this quote to yourself: "It takes two to tango - and to have a flight."
Source: Shermanís 21 Laws of Speaking, by Rob Sherman.